Bridgend Wedding Photographer – Bobbie Lee
Being a self-employed working mum
Being a mum to small children is hard, whatever you do. If you work you feel guilty for not spending more time with them and see most your salary disappear on childcare. If you stay at home you feel guilty for not being able to afford to do the things that others can. Mum guilt is real. Establishing a business and working as self employed is even harder (I’ve done all three… actually I think I found staying at home with two small children was the hardest, I honestly don’t know how teachers do it with classes of 35+).
But it’s worth it. It’s a constant balancing act of trying to fit meeting clients around school run times. Editing photos till the early hours of the morning so that I can have the next weekend free. Missing out family time on a Saturday to go photograph a wedding. Don’t get me wrong – I wouldn’t change this for the world. I love my job, I’m passionate about capturing memories for my clients. I love it when I show phots to my couples on wedding days and their response is “wow!” I love seeing my clients share their photos over the years. I love that I can pick up my kids every day from school and be with them through to bedtime. I love that when inset days and school trips come up out of the blue 95% of the time I can just say yes and rearrange my week around them. I love that I don’t have to worry about childcare for the school holidays. I’m typing this as my kids do drawings in the dens we’ve built in the lounge. I’m ignoring the 4 baskets full of laundry to fold and put away. My average day involves dropping the kids off at 9am, driving an hour and a half for a consult and preshoot, driving back, picking the kids up at 3, after school clubs, food, craziness of bedtime, cleaning the kitchen and then editing and responding to emails. Thank godness I have a hardworking and understanding husband!
But lets be real it’s not easy, and those that are #livingthedream sipping coffee in Starbucks aren’t being honest with you – they aren’t showing you the truth of what goes on. Building and establishing a wedding photography business is hard work even if you don’t have kids in tow. There is so much that goes on behind the scenes. 16 hour wedding days, back to back weddings, editing, Wedding fairs, marketing, admin, finances, more editing, print orders, and trying to understand what on earth it is that HMRC want from you – there is always more to be done! I love my job, but it’s not for the faint hearted! Anyway. Back to the kids!